Bullying: use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants. (synonyms include: harass, torment, intimidate)
Why do people bully others? I suppose that’s the question to ask here. How have we ended up in a world where people think it’s okay to torment others to the point where they feel as though the only way out of life is to commit suicide? It’s never okay to do such a horrible thing to anyone. God certainly doesn’t treat anyone differently; He loves everyone the same.
Why can’t people understand that this is wrong?
It seems that students these days like to intimidate others for numerous reasons such as jealousy, or because someone isn’t as fortunate as others. Basically, they bully others because someone is different. Bullying is present throughout many schools throughout the country, the latest case close to my home is the story of a 14-year-old student from Woodside High School in Newport News. Her name was De’Jah; family and faculty have described her as a great person with a bright future ahead of her – and looking at pictures of her, I believe it. She looked like such a sweet girl; so why were people so cruel to her? That’s a question that we do not have an answer to yet, but regardless of the reason, it should not have been happening.
Having lost a classmate to suicide a few years ago, I can only imagine what her fellow classmates and friends are feeling. They probably feel as though they’re at fault like they could have prevented this from happening if they had talked to her or tried to help her. Please do not blame yourselves; I’m sure De’Jah would not want you all to do that. Just try and pick yourselves up, and keep your heads up for her – I’m sure that’s what she wants.
To her bullies; I have no idea how you sleep at night. If you have a conscience, I’m sure this is eating you alive, that a girl you tormented on a daily basis has now taken her own life to escape the torture you put her through when all she was trying to do is get her education and do what she loves. I pray that you find it in your heart to step forward, and at least offer an apology to a mother and father who have to bury their child now, and I pray that God will forgive you for your actions.
Let this be yet another lesson to you all. To anyone that is bullying someone on a daily basis; this needs to be a wake-up call that this could happen to that kid you call weird or that kid you make fun of for the clothes they wear. This is just another example of the consequences of horrific actions of people who think it’s “cute” and “okay” to make fun of others. Everyone is different; I’m sure you’re not perfect either. I’m sure you all wouldn’t like it if you were being made fun of for your flaw, so why do that to someone else? You never know what someone is going through, so don’t make their lives a nightmare when all they’re trying to do is live and grow up.
To anyone that is being bullied for any reason, please remember these things:
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.
YOU ARE POWERFUL.
YOU ARE STRONG.
YOU ARE BETTER THAN THOSE BULLIES.
YOU ARE PERFECT.
YOU ARE BRAVE.
YOU ARE A MASTERPIECE.
YOU ARE A WINNER.
And I mean all of those things. You all are brave and beautiful; so please don’t let those bullies win. Ask for help from peers or a counselor or even parents. I promise – there are people that care about you and want you to shine. Not everyone is horrible; there are loads of nice people in the world – and you are one of them. Don’t let those horrible people win.
A Message To De’Jah:
I didn’t know you personally, but I feel like I did. I’m so sorry that those horrible people bullied you to the point where this was your only way out. You were such a bright person that gave off the happiest vibes and made everyone smile at all times. You didn’t deserve such horrible treatment from those mean people. Fly high angel; they can’t hurt you anymore.